Comments on: Adoption: How it Looks 14 Years Later

By: Matt Hellstrom

Matt Hellstrom — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 05:05:17 +0000

@Green Mahma,

That is how I feel too. That only God can fill the hole. It is good reminder about the teen years being the years of establishing identity. I read in Parenting Teens with Love and Logic that during the teen years, kids dismantle the identity you have set up with them and rebuild it for themselves. My hope is that they use some of the same blocks.

By: Green Mahma

Green Mahma — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 03:00:47 +0000

I adopted 2 children and I know what you mean when you say your heart aches for them. It’s been 10 years for us. We adopted older children who are now about grown. The teen years which are the years of establishing an identity are especially difficult with the added layers of insecurity they have. I, too, thought the love of an adopted family could fill the hole, but it does not. Only God can fill that hole.

By: orlund

orlund — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:56:13 +0000

I think every possible attempt should be made to keep children with there biological parents. I know there are circumstances that prevent this. I hope I will be able to play a part in helping parents choose to keep there children and building healthy strong relationships with them.

By: Sharon - missing children

Sharon - missing children — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:51:57 +0000

You’ve identified something that we deal with regularly in the seminars we do with Family Foundations International. But it’s not necessarily something that only adopted children experience – although it’s probably easier to identify. We’ve found after ministering to thousands of people in our seminars that most people have holes in their hearts somewhere. Often it comes from rejection of a natural parent with whom they have regular contact. I understand your heartache for your adopted children – but we also know from experience that those holes can be completely filled. See http://www.familyfoundations.com for information on seminars near you.