Comments on: RAD Kids Love To Lie http://tips-for-parenting.info/rad-kids-love-to-lie/ Mon, 21 Nov 2011 19:41:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Matt Hellstrom http://tips-for-parenting.info/rad-kids-love-to-lie/#comment-1016 Matt Hellstrom Wed, 02 Jun 2010 18:10:01 +0000 http://tips-for-parenting.info/?p=785#comment-1016 Jessica, it's not easy, is it. They do make you wake up and dread every day. I know what you mean about the calls from the school. I think we're on our school's speed dial! Have you checked into Nancy Thomas's DVD's or book? She's given us many good ideas. Here's the link: http://www.attachment.org/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=attachment&Product_Code=137&Category_Code=ALL I hope for the best for you. Sometimes I think God gave me these kids to keep me humble! Matt Jessica, it’s not easy, is it. They do make you wake up and dread every day. I know what you mean about the calls from the school. I think we’re on our school’s speed dial!

Have you checked into Nancy Thomas’s DVD’s or book? She’s given us many good ideas. Here’s the link: http://www.attachment.org/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=attachment&Product_Code=137&Category_Code=ALL

I hope for the best for you. Sometimes I think God gave me these kids to keep me humble!

Matt

]]> By: Jessica http://tips-for-parenting.info/rad-kids-love-to-lie/#comment-1003 Jessica Thu, 20 May 2010 15:18:24 +0000 http://tips-for-parenting.info/?p=785#comment-1003 For so long, I have been trying to find resources to help my family and myself deal with our RAD child. She lies constantly about everything, steals, sneaks food and anything else she can get her hands on, manipulates like you wouldn't believe, smears feces all over things (She once pooped in a heating vent in my house, in the bathroom sink at school, and in the bathroom sink at church. Talk about embarrassing!), and she has made herself vomit all over her sister's belongings, for her own reasons. (We cannot get into her head, and I'm not sure I want to...) As you all know, raising a RADish is no easy feat. Rather, it is the exact opposite. I wake up everyday, dreading the obstacles that day will bring me. I am constantly hearing about how my little one decides to act out in school, and is causing a disturbance in the classroom. It has happened so many times, I have come to think something is wrong if I don't get frequent calls from the school. Please, let me know I'm not alone. She is going to be 8 years old this year, and if it's already this bad, will there ever be a break? For so long, I have been trying to find resources to help my family and myself deal with our RAD child. She lies constantly about everything, steals, sneaks food and anything else she can get her hands on, manipulates like you wouldn’t believe, smears feces all over things (She once pooped in a heating vent in my house, in the bathroom sink at school, and in the bathroom sink at church. Talk about embarrassing!), and she has made herself vomit all over her sister’s belongings, for her own reasons. (We cannot get into her head, and I’m not sure I want to…)

As you all know, raising a RADish is no easy feat. Rather, it is the exact opposite. I wake up everyday, dreading the obstacles that day will bring me. I am constantly hearing about how my little one decides to act out in school, and is causing a disturbance in the classroom. It has happened so many times, I have come to think something is wrong if I don’t get frequent calls from the school.

Please, let me know I’m not alone. She is going to be 8 years old this year, and if it’s already this bad, will there ever be a break?

]]> By: Matt Hellstrom http://tips-for-parenting.info/rad-kids-love-to-lie/#comment-1000 Matt Hellstrom Mon, 17 May 2010 19:17:44 +0000 http://tips-for-parenting.info/?p=785#comment-1000 You're right about sneakiness - just another form of lying. Experience that just about every day. We've been working with our kiddo, though, to show her it gives her power to tell the truth. She then gets more responsibility and perks. I think she's starting to get it. One thing she's finding out is that most of her friends don't like her sneakiness either! Puts her between a rock and a hard place. Just got to keep on keepin' on! That's the plan! You’re right about sneakiness – just another form of lying. Experience that just about every day. We’ve been working with our kiddo, though, to show her it gives her power to tell the truth. She then gets more responsibility and perks. I think she’s starting to get it. One thing she’s finding out is that most of her friends don’t like her sneakiness either! Puts her between a rock and a hard place.

Just got to keep on keepin’ on! That’s the plan!

]]> By: Michael Friedman http://tips-for-parenting.info/rad-kids-love-to-lie/#comment-999 Michael Friedman Mon, 17 May 2010 19:13:18 +0000 http://tips-for-parenting.info/?p=785#comment-999 Oh, yes, those RADishes do love to lie. And they do it so well! Mine certainly does, although over time we have learned to tell when she is lying (most of the time). As I see it sneakiness is only a different version of lying. Instead of looking you in the face and telling you a lie, kiddo simply acts it out. And later lies about it! The saving grace is that our RADish is definitely healing, getting stronger, lying less and less, being less and less sneaky. We see this in many ways. What began to turn things around for us in a big way was attending a week long therapeutic intensive with Nancy Thomas and James Dusmenil. I see that you are familiar with Nancy, and as good as her recorded material is, working directly with her can't be beat. I would be happy to talk to you about the intensives if you are interested. Good luck! Michael aka Mr. Mike Oh, yes, those RADishes do love to lie. And they do it so well! Mine certainly does, although over time we have learned to tell when she is lying (most of the time). As I see it sneakiness is only a different version of lying. Instead of looking you in the face and telling you a lie, kiddo simply acts it out. And later lies about it! The saving grace is that our RADish is definitely healing, getting stronger, lying less and less, being less and less sneaky. We see this in many ways. What began to turn things around for us in a big way was attending a week long therapeutic intensive with Nancy Thomas and James Dusmenil. I see that you are familiar with Nancy, and as good as her recorded material is, working directly with her can’t be beat. I would be happy to talk to you about the intensives if you are interested. Good luck!

Michael
aka Mr. Mike

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