Military Schools – The Answer for Defiant Children?

How many times growing up did you hear your parents say “you either shape up or we are shipping you out!” meaning to military school? There is just something about the structure and rules of military schools that sings to the heart of a parent of an out of control kid. While this seems like […]

3 Ways to Improve Child Behavior Through Using Rewards

How many times have you wondered should I reward my child? Or maybe you have even wondered should I even be rewarding my child’s behavior? These are the ongoing questions we parents face. I have come up with a few basics that I use to determine if rewards are appropriate for my child behavior program […]

Defiant Teenager – Dealing With The Turn Around

An interesting thing happened on the way to opera last night (just kidding about the opera) – my daughter decided to be defiant. Straight up, in our face “I am going to break your rules”. And when we confronted her, all h-e-double toothpicks broke loose! It was straight out of James Lehman’s Total Transformation chapter on […]

Total Transformation – Injustice

One thing I find very interesting as a parent is how kids deal with things that they feel are unfair. I found that when they don’t believe the situation is fair, all rules go out the window. The fairness becomes the focus not the unacceptable behavior. Let me give you an example. I have firm […]

The Total Transformation Workbook

As we work through the Total Transformation DVD’s and CD’s, we thought it would be worthwhile to explain a little about what the workbook is like, so you know what to expect from that part of the program. The Total Transformation workbook is 118 pages, and it starts out explaining a little about the program, […]